ARRIVING DECEMBER 2014...

 ...Babe #4.  Details to come but sorry no gender reveals this time.

THOUGHTS ON BEING A MAMA

 

I am blessed.  I am called "mama" by three wonderful babes.  Hearing that word is magical.  To three little babes, I have become the person that they look to for protection, love, guidance, answers, navigation.  Each morning, they somehow all end up in our bed.  Tiny feet tickled my pits and legs are splayed across mine.  But it doesn't bother me.  I get to wake up beside those little beings who have been forming dreams all night and are waiting to burst into a new day full of curiosity that only a child can have.

Becoming a mama for me was a strange mix of emotions.  I was lucky enough to decide with that one person who I wanted to be in my life forever, that we wanted to both hold each other's hands and take the leap into the unknown.  It was with love and confidence that we entered into the agreement that regardless we will care and love a being that we had yet to meet. 

Our decision, full of love and happiness, was also fraught with confusion on how to bestow love when for much of my life I felt unloved by my very own mother.  Looking back and through my own personal journey I have finally come to the conclusion that I was deserving of love, but while trying to frame my own idea of what a mother was, I many times came up short.  I was full of fear.  

But sometimes you have to push down that fear, listen to your heart and carry with confidence your determination.  You must surround yourself with those who are amazing.  You must also realize that becoming a mother is a journey, an individual journey.  Each and every woman before jumping into the greatest challenge had a life, soul and journey which shaped who she is as a mother.  

There are those like me, who never had an example of nurturing to draw from.  But even when you are denied love it is absolutely possible to innately create that from your heart.  Each day I just look at my babes with an intensity at how miraculous and perfect they are and I can't do anything but gush and nurture their little spirits.  Watching them grow and seeing them become confident, happy, free spirits with strong voices, sweetness, empathy and love, is rewarding and a reminder that, I am capable of loving and nurturing.  

There are those who enter into this with every confidence and I appreciate that you exist in our lives and that your children are in yours.  Let us honour each and every mother who pours their heart and soul into loving and teaching their child and remember that our choices, manners in which we proceed and lifestyles, are irrelevant as long as that child feels love in abundance and happiness in themselves and their heart.

MAMA STYLE

stacey king and scarlett olivia (instagram staceyking88)

casey wiegand and apple from the wiegands ref. thewiegands.com

kelli murray and rylee ref. kelli's blog

james king and birdie from bleubirdblog.com

PLAYING PICTURE CATCH UP

 

WE'RE BACK

After a long hiatus, The Mess in Messenger has returned.  I have been missing this space dearly.  Blogging for me has been such a great place to meet friends, share my thoughts, get support, give people a little glimpse into our simple little lives.  As most of you know, we lost our computer to a good old cup of spilled milk last May.  If I did blog, it was all via my iPhone via a terrible app that shall remain nameless but had so many frustrations of its own.  It was last year that I saved some money to hire a professional website designer, Jenny Highsmith, to redesign my blog look.  I don't know about you, but it perfectly encapsulates our little mess.  I can really tell that I haven't blogged in such a time because Jenny went ahead and got pregnant and is about to have her little boy any day.

This blog started really simply but over the years it has evolved, as people and lives do.  So with that evolution I wanted also to capture our lives in a more beautiful way.  It wasn't until two months ago that we saved enough money to purchase another tool that I know would help the blog:  a Digital SLR!!  I am no photographer by any means (I leave that to my bro in law and friends Terri and Kerry) but having a good camera can enable me to take beautiful photos of my babes and share them with all of you.  I am pretty darned excited!

So my first post back isn't all too exciting.  I have no big announcements or accolades that I have acquired in the time gone.  But just to be on here writing is so good for my soul.  Trust me, when you type as fast as you think, it is a good thing to be on a keyboard.

I won't leave you hanging though.  I've been thinking about so things I want to do more of on the blog and maybe you can tell me if they interest you or if they should never come to being.

My Ideas thus Far:

A Return to that Which I Love:  The Babes

I want to focus my writing about and for the babes.  This is a blog which started because of them and I don't want to lose sight of that.  They are all that fuel my days' happiness and the Papa's obviously as well.  There will be more Letters to my Babes.

DIYs and Art

Only the funnest stuff in the world

Home Renos and Ideas for Home Improvement

We have a beautiful home, but it needs some work, love and an infusion of my style

Photos....Maybe a VLOG?!

Mama Self-Love

Honest, true confessions of a Mama raising these lovely babes who at times test my spirit.  I do love them but there is a constant balance in finding the time to be a healthy person (and sane person), a loving wife, whole being and role model.  I'm a work in progress

Veganocity, Recipes, Sustainability, Earth Love


Love you all and please feel free to comment below about anything you would like to see or get a glimpse into.